> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://www.myvirtualeventingcoach.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Guest Blog Post # 36: "Desperation, Exasperation, & Motivation" from the famous Bad Eventer! - URL: https://www.myvirtualeventingcoach.com/guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer/ - Published: 2014-04-11T07:30:00.000Z - Updated: 2014-04-11T07:30:23.000Z - Author: Administrator - Tags: Blog, #Import 2026-01-20 00:55 ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-AvqfOzPVywE/U0YEcT7SlTI/AAAAAAAAJkQ/QKJ4wbBTbGg/s1600/BE+desperate+man+face+hands+DP.jpg) I could hear it in her voice. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-EVLkR3s9SpE/U0YDZLImtuI/AAAAAAAAJkI/1M-1fcvp34M/s1600/BE+desperate+woman+face+DP.jpg) The voice mail was nearly identical to one I'd left my mentor a few years ago.......... "Oh My Lord, what am I going to do with this horse??!! She is KILLING ME! Nothing works, and I'm going crazy, PLEASE CALL ME!!!!!!" ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vAemrVpHdnI/U0YGfE8gpiI/AAAAAAAAJkY/c3TVEPuMmyo/s1600/BE+help+woman+sign+screaming+DP.jpg) The horse she was talking about happens to be offspring of THE KNUCKLEHEAD to beat all knuckleheads. See ["How I was Outsmarted by a Warmblood"](http://badeventer.blogspot.com/2011/04/my-ride-to-rolex-or-how-i-was.html?ref=myvirtualeventingcoach.com) for more about that Knucklehead aka The Evil Twin aka The Warmblood aka The Horse with No Name...... ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-eF38Tu8s6AI/U0YOXrFA6TI/AAAAAAAAJls/aKHVzGEl7TM/s1600/BE+Jester+babies+s.jpg) Did you know The Evil Twin has LOTS of babies? All 3 are his! I had made that same phone call myself a few years ago, about Daddy Knucklehead himself. Apparently the ability to push their person right over the edge............ ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-o3oTVCds4X8/U0YOvEebQvI/AAAAAAAAJl0/IUC_EoyIE2k/s1600/Jester+MC+Bad+1+s.jpg) runs in the family. This horse managed to outsmart me & outlast me on every level. The worst part was I had been a fairly solid green horse trainer for YEARS when he crossed my path. Give me a sensitive, nervous, scaredy cat and I turned them into reasonably brave, solid citizens in short order. Nearly every time. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-t1SZQ9dScZE/U0YP--ZZIXI/AAAAAAAAJl8/yvUlJDRBvNo/s1600/BE+Sham+flowers+s.jpg) This gelding was TERRIFYING when I got him, now he's husband safe! But The Evil Twin...... He wasn't sensitive, nervous OR scared. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-0E8vyk6OD64/U0YQ5sbl_wI/AAAAAAAAJmE/cEWiDOwUWwM/s1600/BE+Jest+storm+s.jpg) Before long \*I\* was the sensitive, nervous, scared one............. And HE was dominant, in charge, and bored. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-o40RKMUYjGo/U0YMG0hw9dI/AAAAAAAAJlM/cKXaZaKFeFU/s1600/BE+JRH+1.jpg) He's the horse that changed my views on motivation. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-oFvqC0Vdj3w/U0YJTYiyyOI/AAAAAAAAJko/95nSoYcpEQ8/s1600/BE+carrot+stick+DP.jpg) I'd always had horses that responded well to exercise, patterns, repetition, and structure. The more times you repeated an exercise the more confident and agreeable they became. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-YrHXUJg9RQU/U0YLJ8TVDcI/AAAAAAAAJk0/K49A97I0lSE/s1600/BE+karate+kids+DP.jpg) But THIS horse............if you did something ONE TIME. He got it. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-GH6qmabKYcI/U0YLlA3vOjI/AAAAAAAAJk8/-MqF5CMlB9Q/s1600/BE+horse+glasses+DP.jpg) It was etched in there permanently, and if you did it twice he was bored and looking for something else to do with his time. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-9hQvtfoohlc/U0YL3V_mWuI/AAAAAAAAJlE/KyrmoIDF6V0/s1600/BE+Jest+face+1s.jpg) He is the REASON for the phrase........ Less is More. When I figured that part out we finally started getting somewhere. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TspZ9H6vIoQ/U0YSr1oHZII/AAAAAAAAJmQ/mPQ5KHm5mMM/s1600/BE+J+CH+2+s+(364x640)s.jpg) I also learned that I had to find other ways to motivate this horse because his "willingness to please" was nonexistentvery short lived. ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-I1-kqqydiUg/U0YMiW_Qh1I/AAAAAAAAJlU/JCjdwnKmnqA/s1600/BE+Jester+mirror+s.jpg) Hopefully I gave my desperate caller some ideas about motivating her knucklehead...... or at least talking her off that cliff that I know so well!! ![guest-blog-36-desperation-exasperation-and-motivation-bad-eventer](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-igG-U9whHJ0/U0YNcsQNzPI/AAAAAAAAJlc/itW9yGAuMRw/s1600/BE+hanging+from+cliff+DP.jpg)